職場(chǎng)上15種錯(cuò)誤的肢體語(yǔ)言

1、職場(chǎng)上15種錯(cuò)誤的肢體語(yǔ)言在我們真正認(rèn)識(shí)一個(gè)人之前，我們的大腦就會(huì)依賴草率的判斷以 類化那個(gè)人，預(yù)估他會(huì)做什么事情，并且預(yù)想我們?cè)撊绾巫龀龇磻?yīng)。 也許你曾經(jīng)聽說(shuō)過(guò)你只有短短的幾秒鐘就能留下第一印象，但事實(shí)上是，你的大腦已經(jīng)在遇見他們后的幾毫秒內(nèi)就決定了（以此去評(píng)判）一個(gè)人的印象。根據(jù)普林斯頓大學(xué)心理學(xué)家的研究，認(rèn)為這是一種進(jìn)化的生存機(jī) 制。你的大腦由它所擁有的信息所決定；換而言之，你看起來(lái)是怎樣 的;你是否值得信賴，還是帶有威脅的，能干的，討人喜歡的或其他 的個(gè)人特質(zhì)。有一個(gè)可以改變這種瞬間判斷的方法，就是有意識(shí)地調(diào)整我們自 己的肢體語(yǔ)言，特別是在重要的場(chǎng)合里。無(wú)論你正在申請(qǐng)一份工作， 還是請(qǐng)

2、求加薪，還是與新客戶的見面，調(diào)整或?qū)ψ约旱闹w語(yǔ)言多加 留意，因?yàn)檫@樣會(huì)影響到他人對(duì)我們的印象以至這個(gè)場(chǎng)景的最終結(jié) 果。這是15種需要注意的肢體語(yǔ)言錯(cuò)誤：1. Lea ning Back too much ; you come off lazy or arroga nt.過(guò)度向后倚靠；;使你看起來(lái)很懶惰或自大。2. Leaning forward ; can seem aggressive. Aim for a n eutral posture.身體前傾；;看起來(lái)有挑釁的意味。應(yīng)該換一個(gè)更中立的姿勢(shì)。3. Break ing eye con tact too soon ; can make y

3、ou seem un trustworthy or overly n ervous. Hold eye con tact a hair Ion ger, especially duri ng a han dshake.眼神接觸時(shí)間太短；;會(huì)使你看起來(lái)不可信或過(guò)度緊張。應(yīng)保持稍 長(zhǎng)時(shí)間的眼神接觸，特別是在握手的時(shí)候。4. Noddi ng too much ; can make you look like a bobble head doll! Eve n if you agree with what 's being said, nod once and the n try t

4、o rema in still.點(diǎn)頭太頻繁；;會(huì)讓你看起來(lái)像一個(gè)點(diǎn)頭玩偶！即使你同意對(duì)方所 說(shuō)的，點(diǎn)一次頭并試著保持靜止就可以了。5. Chopp ingor poin ti ngwith your hands ; feelsaggressive.打斷別人說(shuō)話或用手指著對(duì)方；;會(huì)看起來(lái)很挑釁。6. Crossing your arms ; makes you look defensive, especially whe n you& #39;re an sweri ng questi ons. Try to keepyour arms at your sides.交叉手臂；;讓你顯得自

5、我防御，尤其是在回答問(wèn)題的時(shí)候。盡量 保持你的雙臂在身體的兩側(cè)。7. Fidgeting ; instantly telegraphs how nervous you are. Avoid it at all costs.很多小動(dòng)作；;瞬間就能顯示你有多么的緊張不安。盡一切所能避免這種情況。8. Holdi ng your hands behi nd your back (or firmly in your pockets) ; can look rigid and stiff. Aim for a n atural, hands at your sides posture.把手放在身后(或緊

6、緊地攥在口袋里);看起來(lái)會(huì)死板僵硬。換一個(gè) 自然的，雙手保持在身體兩旁的姿勢(shì)。9. Looking up or looking around ; is a natural cue that some one is lyi ng or not being themselves. Try to hold steadyeye con tact.向上看或到處張望；;這是一個(gè)說(shuō)謊或違心的暗示。盡量保持穩(wěn)定 的眼神交流。10. Stari ng ; can be in terpreted as aggressive. There 's a fine line betwee n hold i

7、ng some one's gaze and stari ng them dow n.目不轉(zhuǎn)睛地瞪著別人；;這有可能會(huì)解讀為有侵略性的眼神。保持 眼神接觸和瞪大眼睛的區(qū)別只有一線之差。11. Faili ng to smile ; can make people un comfortable, and won der if you really want to be there. Go for a genuine smile especially whe n meet ing some one for the first time.缺少笑容；;會(huì)讓別人感覺不舒服，并且會(huì)猜想你是

8、否真的愿意逗 留在這里。嘗試給別人一個(gè)真誠(chéng)的微笑吧，特別是在與他人初次見面 的時(shí)候。12. Stepp ing back whe n you& #39;re aski ng for a decisi on ; conv eys fear or un certa in ty. Stand your ground, or eve n take a slight step forward with conv icti on.在詢問(wèn)決定的時(shí)候身體向后退；;傳遞著驚恐和不確定的信息。腳 踏實(shí)地，或者甚至可以堅(jiān)定地向前踏一小步。13. Your fin gers or holdi ng palms

9、 up ; looks like a beggi ng positi on and conv eys weak ness.指尖向上或手心朝上；;看起來(lái)像是一個(gè)乞求的姿勢(shì)，傳遞著軟弱 的信息。14. Standing with hands on hips ; is an aggressive posture, like a bird or a dog puffi ng themselves up to look bigger.站著的時(shí)候雙手放在臀部上；;這是一個(gè)好斗的姿勢(shì)，就像一只小 鳥或小狗鼓吹聲勢(shì)讓自己看起來(lái)更強(qiáng)大的樣子。15. Checki ng your phone or watch ;

10、 says you want to be somewhere else. Plus, it's just bad manners.查看手機(jī)或手表；;意味著你想離開這里到別的地方。再者，這是 不禮貌的動(dòng)作。So, what should you do? Aim for good posture in a n eutral positi on, whether sitt ing or sta nding. Stand with your arms at your sides, and sit with them at your sides or with your hands in

11、 your lap. Pay attentionso that you naturallyhold eye con tact, smile, and be yourself.那么，你該怎么做呢？應(yīng)該是這樣：無(wú)論是坐著還是站著的時(shí)候， 力求保持中立的良好姿勢(shì)。站著的時(shí)候把雙手放在身旁，坐著的時(shí)候 也應(yīng)如此或者放在大腿上。保持注意力集中這樣才能自然地保持眼神 交流，微笑和展現(xiàn)自己。If you discover you have a particular problem with one ortwo of the gestures on the list, practice by yourself with a mirror or with a frien