【心靈雞湯】高中英語增加詞匯量四步帶你找到真正的幸福素材

1、1心靈雞湯：四步帶你找到真正的幸福Two mon ths ago a new clie nt en tered my office for her first coach ing sessi on. AllI want is to feel happy, she said. Im miserable and I focus on that misery all day Ion g.兩個月前，一個新客戶來到我的辦公室參加她的第一次輔導(dǎo)課?！拔乙氖歉械礁吲d，”她說，“我很痛苦，而且我整天專注于怎樣把自己從痛苦中解救出來?！盜t seemed like a fairly simplerequest

2、 , so we went to work.這似乎是一個非常簡單的要求，所以我們就開始了。Weekafter week I witnessed the smile on my clients face becoming more consistent , moreauthe ntic .Soon she bega n talk ing about the laughter and pleasa nt activities that now fill her days. So I askedwhether she thought that we had achieved her happ in

3、ess goal. I was surprised whe n she said n o.幾周過后，我親眼目睹了我的客戶臉上露出堅定真誠的笑容。因此她開始談?wù)撁刻斐涑庠谏磉叺男α虾陀淇斓幕顒?。因此我問她是否認(rèn)為我們已經(jīng)達(dá)到了她的幸福目標(biāo)，但我很驚訝的是她說“沒有”。What I learned is that thisvibrantwoman believed that in orderherself as happy she could n ever feel sad. To her, sad ness andfeeli ngs are not allowed in the life of

4、some one who defi nes themselves as ahappy person. But that is not what the human experienee is actually about.我了解到的是，這個充滿活力的女人認(rèn)為，為了讓她看起來很幸福，她不能覺得悲傷。對她來說，悲傷等不愉快的情緒在生活中是不允許出現(xiàn)在一個幸福的人身上的。但是這不是真正的人生體驗。If we dont allow a n atural progressi on of the result ingun pleasa ntfeeli ngs wewill never fully expe

5、rienee and embrace the joy in life. Thats right;where thereisblack, thereis white, its just how n ature works.There aretwo compleme ntaryforces that make up all aspects of life and we must allow andaccept their bala nee.如果我們不允許一個不愉快情緒的自然的產(chǎn)生， 我們就無法體驗和擁抱生活的樂趣。正是這樣；當(dāng)有黑暗的地方就有光明， 這才是自然的。生活的各個方面都有兩個互補(bǔ)的力量，

6、 我們 必須允許和接受它們的平衡。This is the un dersta nding that my clie nt was miss ing.這是我的顧客對生活漏掉的領(lǐng)悟。And it begs the questi on: Happ in ess-what is it, really?它引出了一個問題：幸福一一到底是什么？In simplest form, happ in ess is a state of being. Sure, our circumsta nces in flue nee the level of happ iness we can access, but hap

7、p in ess is withi n us, not around us.Weall have it, but we eachdefine it differently and have varying expectations of ourselves and our ownabilities to be happy. And that is what causes theconfusion .在最簡單的情況下， 幸福是一種狀態(tài)。當(dāng)然，我們能接觸到的環(huán)境會影響幸福的水平，但是幸福在我們心里，而不是在我們周圍。我們都擁有它，但是我們每個人的定義不同，我們有 不同的期望，我們想要幸福。這就是造

8、成混亂的原因。Its perfectly OK to have mome nts or days of feeli ng bad, rather tha n good. Whento characterizeother un pleasa nt2we resist the feelings that we categorize as unpleasant , it simply causes more resista nee , leadi ng togreater un happ in ess. Lets deb unk the happ in essmyth.These steps mig

9、ht just help you develop a healthy-a nd, dare I say, happy-life bala nee.因此完全可以有不開心的時間。如果我們抵觸那些被列為不開心的事情，這會導(dǎo)致更多的阻力，也就會導(dǎo)致更多的不開心。讓我們來揭穿幸福的秘密。這些步驟可以幫你養(yǎng)成一個健康 而且幸福的生活平衡。1. Build a solidfoun dati on打好基礎(chǔ)。Martin Seligman is one of the leading researchers in positive psychology and author of Authe nticHapp i

10、n ess.Seligma n describeshapp in essas hav ing three parts:pleasure, engagement,and meaning. Pleasure is the feel good part ofhapp in ess.En gageme nt refers to livi ng a good life of work, family, frien ds,and hobbies. Meaning refers to using our stre ngths tocon tributeto a largerpurpose.Seligman

11、says that all three are important, but that of the three,engagement and meaning make the most difference to living a happy life.馬丁塞利格曼是積極心理學(xué)主要研究者和真正的幸福的作者。塞利格曼把幸福定義為三個方面：快樂，參與和意義?？鞓肥切腋！案杏X不錯”的部分。參與表示“美好生活”的工作、家庭、朋友和愛好等方面。意義指的是利用我們的優(yōu)勢來促進(jìn)更大的目標(biāo)完成。塞利格曼說，這三點很重要，但是參與和意義對幸福生活影響最大。Revisityour relationships.

12、Are they satisfactory? Do you have a goodsupportn etwork in place? If not, work on buildi ng it up. When you hit a bump inthe road havi ng supportive people around you will make a world of differe nce.重溫你的關(guān)系網(wǎng)， 這些關(guān)系是否令人滿意呢？你有一個很好地支持你的交際網(wǎng)嗎？如果沒 有， 建設(shè)起來。當(dāng)你遇到顛簸的道路，支持你的人可以幫你創(chuàng)造出不同的世界。Also, review how youco

13、n tributeto a larger purpose. Focus ing on someth ing biggerthan you are helps to keep things inperspective .此外，知道如何做有助于實現(xiàn)更大的目標(biāo)?？吹母鼜V闊的可以讓你看事情更正確。2. Set realisticexpectati ons.設(shè)定切合自我實際的目標(biāo)。You are huma n. Forci ng or faking happ in ess leads tomisery and con flict. Evenif you create your happ in essfo

14、un datio nand achieve a state of gen eralwell-being, you will have your ups and downs. Its how you deal with those fluctuati ons that matters.Condemn ati onand n egativity willjeopardize yourstate of bala nce. Get real.Elimi natethe pressure and you will bounce backmore quickly.你是個普通人。強(qiáng)迫或者偽造幸福會導(dǎo)致痛苦和

15、沖突。即使你創(chuàng)造了你的幸?；A(chǔ)，實現(xiàn)了總體幸福感的狀態(tài)，你也將有你的跌宕起伏。因此，你如何處理那些生活中的波動至關(guān)重要。譴責(zé)和否認(rèn)定將危及你的平衡狀態(tài)，面對現(xiàn)實吧！消除壓力，你會更迅速的恢復(fù)活力。3. Allow your feeli ngs, rather tha n resist ing them.3遵從真實感受，而不是抵制它們。Thereare dayswhe n you will wake up feeli ngun happy. Whether youfullyunderstandit or not, its important to accept that this happens

16、. Be patientwith yourself. Dontcomplain , but doindulgein a little time to examine yourfeeli ngs without criticism. Rathertha n, I hate whe n I feel like this, try Itsin teresti ng that I have these feeli ngs. Be OK with it and exam ine the feeli ngs for a little while if theymerit your atte nti on.

17、 If not, simply turn yourfocus toyour larger purpose topreventyourself fromdwellingon something that isntdwell-worthy.總有當(dāng)你醒來感覺不快的幾天。無論你是否完全理解， 重要的是要接受這種情況的發(fā)生。對自己有耐心。不要抱怨，而是要不帶批判性的檢查自己的情緒。不是“我討厭當(dāng)我有這種感覺的時候”，而是試著想想“有這種感覺很奇妙?！睂@些情緒保持淡定，如果這種情緒值得關(guān)注，檢查它；如果沒有，把你的關(guān)注點放在更大的目標(biāo)上，來防止你關(guān)注不必要的東西。4. Be ready for cha

18、nge為改變做好準(zhǔn)備。Ups and downs are normal , but if you find yourself in what feels like a con sta nt state of un happ in essits importa nt to liste n to what your body and mind are telli ng you. Life has a funny way of tapp ing uson theshoulder whe n weneed to create change. If you dont pay attentionto the gentletapping, you maybe surprised by a less gentlereminder -or series of them.跌宕起伏是正常的，但是如果你處于一個一直不開心的狀態(tài)，有必要聽從你身體和情感的意愿。生活以一種有趣的方式，在我們需要改變時輕拍我們的肩膀。如果你沒有注意到這種輕拍，你可能會對不太溫和的提醒感到驚訝（這樣的提醒可能會有一大串）。Either way, your subc on scious mind will get your atte nti on to suggest, or force,c