愛情婚姻情感美文集萃 中英文對照版

1、愛情婚姻情感美文 中英文對照版男人的哭泣方式編注：什么叫做non-crying cry?這是男人們專有的一種哭泣方式。也許在婚禮上，女兒和媽媽可以互相抹去眼淚，但是爸爸只能一個人默默回到自己的房間，默默去想念，因為男人是不允許在大庭廣眾下輕易掉眼淚的。這也是為什么一個父親會教自己的兒子，如何學(xué)會non-crying cry。大家有沒有覺得，父親節(jié)或者老爸的生日那天，不管你花多少心思，都難得看到老爸像老媽那樣大動感情呢?其實，他只是用另一種方式，流下了作為男人和父親的眼淚。Real men don't cry. We just get something in our eyeA shor

2、t walk from my house in Hampshire, on a hill overlooking the heathland, is a plaque marking the spot where Richard Pryce Jones deliberately crashed his Halifax bomber during the war. He could have parachuted to safety, but that would have meant crashing into the village. The epitaph reads: "He

3、died that others might live."It never fails to move me. Not to tears, you understand. That would be disrespectful. But I do usually manage a lump in the throat and that film of moisture over the eyes that men have in their emotional armoury. Gordon Brown demonstrated the non-crying cry beautifu

4、lly when he made his farewell speech on the steps of Number 10. That catch in the throat. The determination not to weep in public. At that moment, if at no other, he had nobility.Not everyone can carry it off. I don't think Paul Gascoigne ever quite got the hang of it, for example. But I like to

5、 think I have it down to an art, my technique honed from years of watching The Railway Children, Sleepless in Seattle and that scene in Dumbo when the mother elephant is locked away. "Daddy!" my sons will say, pointing the accusing finger. "You're crying!""Me? Over Dumbo

6、? Ha ha ha. No, boys, what I am doing is man-crying, a sort of non-crying cry. I'll teach you it one day. Very useful."They are too young to appreciate the nuance yet, but when they are older I will explain that open sobbing is associated with being female, and so inappropriate for men. The

7、 Charlie Chaplin analogy might be useful here. He once said that the way to act drunk is to imagine yourself a drunk man trying to act sober. The same is true when a man learns the non-crying cry. To be convincing, you must look as if you are trying to avoid tears.In this respect, it is important fo

8、r a young man to appreciate the difference between male tears and female. I remember once asking the actress Emilia Fox if she could cry at will, right there and then, over lunch. To my astonishment, she could from a standing start. Fat tears rolling down her cheeks. When she had finished, she resum

9、ed her smiling countenance.Those are female tears, and the reason you never hear anyone say: "It's enough to make a grown woman cry." That expression only works when it refers to "grown men" and though that may seem tautological, the "grown" is justified. Not all me

10、n are grown. The emotionally incontinent exhibitionists who cry when they are kicked off talent shows such as The X Factor are not grown men, for example. Men have to be careful what they cry at, because some subjects are more worthy of tears than others. Grief, obviously. But not self-pity. And rar

11、ely should a man cry in pain. And never at the death of a princess he didn't know. Those are the rules. I suspect my colleague Matt Pritchett might be with me on this. One of his cartoons this past week showed a father next to a television tuned to the World Cup, explaining to his children that

12、"at some point in the next few weeks, you are going to see me cry". And the day after the last survivor of the Great Escape died, he did a cartoon showing a gravestone with a mound of tunnelled earth trailing away from it. I seemed to have something in my eye when I saw that, and I expect

13、he had the same something in his eye when he drew it.愛就是一切WHATEVER LOVE MEANSDIANAAlthough neither or them remembered the occasion, Diana first met her future husband when she was just a baby. It happened during the winter of 1961, when twelve-year-old Charles, Prince of Wales, was visiting his moth

14、ers Sandringham retreat. At the time, your Prince Charles barely glanced at the tiny baby sleeping in her cot. After all, bow could a twelve-year-old boy be interested in babies? But the Prince would eventually take a very keen interest in this particular baby it would just take some time. In fact,

15、it would be sixteen years before Prince Charles and Lady Diana Spencer took place in the middle of a farmers field during a shooting party in November 1977. It was a cold, rainy, bleak afternoon when sixteen-year-old Diana, dressed in a borrowed parka that was too large for her, boots, and blue jean

16、s, crossed the field to meet the heir to the British throne. It was almost twilight when the two came face to face near Nobottle Woods. “What a sad man,” Diana thought when she first saw him. The future Princess was intrigued to finally meet the most eligible bachelor in England, thought she was not

17、 impressed with his five-foot-ten-inch height, thinking to herself that she would tower over him in high heels. But Diana would later say that she admired his beautiful blue eyes. The Prince later remarked that he thought Diana was “a very jolly and attractive” girl, “full of fun,” though Diana hers

18、elf believed that “he barely noticed me at all.” Diana, it was discovered later, first came to the attention of the royal family when she acted as a bridesmaid for her sister Janes wedding that April. It was the first major social occasion that Diana attended as a young woman. And many of the royals

19、 were surprised at how beautiful and mature the once-gawky girl had become. Even the Queen Mother. Prince Charless grandmother, noticed Dianas beauty, grace, and charm. She complimented the Earl on the fine job he had done in bringing Diana up. A short time later, Prince Charles sent his valet to ha

20、nd-deliver a formal invitation for Diana to accompany him that very evening to the opera and a latenight dinner at the palace. Though she was flustered, and the invitation came at such short notice, Diana accepted. She and her roommate, Carolyn Bartholomew, hurried to dress and prepare Diana for her

21、 big date. The evening was a success, and an invitation to party on the royal yacht came soon after Although she was intimidated by the crowd at Balmoral, Diana was wise enough not to stay in the castle itself . She asked for, and was granted, an invitation to stay with her sister Jane and her young

22、 husband at their cottage on the Balmoral estate. The Prince visited Diana there every day, offering to escort her to a barbecue, or extending an invitation for a long walk in the woods. When Charles went to Switzerland for a ski vacation, Diana missed him terribly. He called her after a day or two,

23、 and told Diana he had something important to ask her. He arrived home on February, 3, 1981.Three days later, he arranged to see Diana at Windsor Castle. Late that evening, while Prince Charles was showing Diana the nursery, he asked her to marry him. To his surprise, Diana treated his proposal as a

24、 joke, She actually giggled. But soon she could see that Prince Charles was serious. Despite an insistent voice inside her head that told her she would never be Queen, she accepted his proposal. Diana told Prince Charles over and over that she loved him. “Whatever love means.” Was his reply. -愛就是一切黛

25、安娜盡管兩人已記不清那段往事，可當(dāng)黛安娜頭一次見到她未來的丈夫時，還只是個孩子。那是在1961年的冬天，當(dāng)時年僅十二歲的威爾士王儲查爾斯正呆在夏丁漢他母親的休養(yǎng)所。 那時，年輕的查爾斯王子幾乎看都沒看那個睡在童床里的小不點兒。畢竟，十二歲的孩子怎么會對嬰兒感興趣呢？ 然而，這位王子最終就是對這個嬰孩產(chǎn)生了強(qiáng)烈的興趣只不過那是后來的事了。 實際上，查爾斯王子與黛安娜·斯賓塞女士再次相遇已是十六年后了。那次邂逅是在1977年11月的一次鄉(xiāng)村狩獵會途中。 那是一個陰雨綿綿，寒風(fēng)刺骨的下午，十六歲的黛安娜，身穿借來的一件過大的毛皮風(fēng)雪大衣，足登長靴，下身是一件藍(lán)色牛仔褲。她正經(jīng)過這片狩獵場朝

26、著這位英國王位繼承人走來。 接近黃昏時分，二人在諾布托樹木附近迎面相遇。 當(dāng)黛安娜第一眼看到王子時，心里想：“一個多么憂郁的人?！北M管黛安娜對于他五英尺十英寸的身高并不心為然，覺得要是她穿著高跟鞋肯定會高過他，但這位未來的王妃還是期盼與英國最令人中意的單身漢見面?？墒趋彀材群髞碚f她很羨慕王子那雙迷人的藍(lán)色眼睛。 雖然黛安娜自己認(rèn)為“他根本沒注意過我”，但王子后來說道，他覺得黛安娜是個“快樂而迷人的”姑娘，“很有趣?！?人們后來發(fā)現(xiàn)，黛安娜第一次引起皇室的注意是在那年四月她姐姐簡的婚禮上，當(dāng)時她是伴娘。這是她成年后參加的第一個大型社交活動，許多皇室成員對這個當(dāng)初還是個粗笨難看的丫頭，現(xiàn)如今卻出落

27、成如此成熟美麗的女人頗感驚訝。 就連查爾斯王子的祖母王后陛下都注意到了黛安娜的美麗、端莊和迷人。她稱贊伯爵對黛安娜的精心培養(yǎng)。 不久之后，查爾斯王子派隨從親手送給她一張正式的請柬，邀請黛安娜當(dāng)晚陪伴他去看歌劇并出席午夜的宮廷晚宴。 盡管黛安娜感到局促不安，且請柬來得太匆忙，可她還是接受了。她與她的室友卡洛琳·巴賽洛繆，匆匆忙忙地梳洗打扮并為黛安娜做好了去赴這個重大約會的準(zhǔn)備。當(dāng)晚非常盡興，不久邀請她參加皇家游艇聚會的請柬又接踵而至. 雖然黛安娜對于拜爾馬洛的眾王族感到有些害怕，可她十分明智沒有前往城堡。她提出請求，并得到批準(zhǔn)，邀請她住在姐姐簡和簡的年輕丈夫在拜爾馬洛的別墅中。 王子每

28、天都去那里拜訪她，要么提出陪她參加戶外烤肉宴，要么邀請她去樹林中進(jìn)行長時間散步。 當(dāng)查爾斯去瑞士作滑雪旅行時，黛安娜對他朝思暮想。查爾斯到那里一兩天后就打 給她，告訴黛安娜他回英格蘭后，要問她一些重要的事情。 1981年2月3日他回來了。三天后，他安排在溫莎堡見黛安娜。那天晚上，當(dāng)查爾斯王子陪黛安娜參觀育嬰室的時候，他向她求婚。 令王子驚訝的是，黛安娜把他的求婚當(dāng)作了一個玩笑。她咯咯地笑起來。但不久后她看得出查爾斯王子是認(rèn)真的。盡管她的腦海中一直有個聲音告誡她不要想著去當(dāng)王妃，可她還是接受了王子的請求。 黛安娜一遍又一遍地對王子說她愛他。 “愛就是一切，”王子答道。 愛會伴隨著度過一生就在這對

29、70多歲的老夫婦離婚的當(dāng)晚，丈夫手握沒有撥通給她的 永遠(yuǎn)離開了她。盡管很悲傷，老夫人仍不得不親自動手清理他的遺物。當(dāng)老夫人認(rèn)真細(xì)致地翻著一個抽屜時，她發(fā)現(xiàn)了一張保險單。保險日期從他們結(jié)婚之日起算起，毫無疑問，保險受益人是她。在這個文件夾里，還有一份她丈夫親手寫的遺囑，里面寫道One fine day, an old couple around the age of 70, walks into a lawyer's office. Apparently, they are there to file a divorce. Lawyer was very puzzled, after h

30、aving a chat with them, he got their story.This couple had been quarreling all their 40 over years of marriage nothing ever seems to go right.They hang on because of their children, afraid that it might affect their up-bringing. Now, all their children have already grown up, have their own family, t

31、here's nothing else the old couple have to worry about, all they wanted is to lead their own life free from all these years of unhappiness from their marriage, so both agree on a divorce.Lawyer was having a hard time trying to get the papers done, because he felt that after 40 years of marriage

32、at the age of 70, he couldn't understand why the old couple would still wants a divorce.While they were signing the papers, the wife told the husband. “I really love you, but I really can't carry on anymore, I'm sorry.”"It's OK, I understand." said the husband. Looking at t

33、his, the lawyer suggested a dinner together, just three of them, wife thought, why not, since they are still going be friends.At the dining table, there was a silence of awkwardness.The first dish was roasted chicken, immediately, the old man took the drumstick for the old lady. "Take this, it&

34、#39;s your favorite."Looking at this, the lawyer thought maybe there's still a chance, but the wife was frowning when she answer. "This is always the problem, you always think so highly of yourself, never thought about how I feel, don't you know that I hate drumsticks?”Little did s

35、he know that, over the years, the husband have been trying all ways to please her, little did she know that drumsticks was the husband's favorite.Little did he know that she never thought he understand her at all, little did he know that she hates drumsticks even though all he wants is the best

36、for her.That night, both of them couldn't sleep, toss and turn, toss and turn. After hours, the old man couldn't take it anymore, he knows that he still loves her, and he can't carry on life without her, he wants her back, he wants to tell her, he is sorry, he wanted to tell her, "I

37、 love you."He picks up the phone, started dialing her number. Ringing never stops. He never stop dialing.On the other side, she was sad, she couldn't understand how come after all these years, he still doesn't understand her at all, she loves him a lot, but she just can't take it an

38、y- more. Phone's ringing, she refuses to answer knowing that it's him. "Whats the point of talking now that it's over. I have asked for it and now. I want to keep it this way, if not I will lose face. "She thought. Phone still ringing. She has decided to pull out the cord. Litt

39、le did she remember, he had heart problems.The next day, she received news that he had passed away. She rushed down to his apartment, saw his body, lying on the couch still holding on to the phone. He had a heart attack when he was still trying to get thru her phone line.As sad as she could be. She

40、will have to clear his belongings. When she was looking thru the drawers, she saw this insurance policy, dated from the day they got married, beneficiary is her. Together in that file there's this note."To my dearest wife, by the time you are reading this, I'm sure I'm no longer aro

41、und, I bought this policy for you, though the amount is only $100k, I hope it will be able to help me continue my promise that I have made when we got married, I might not be around anymore, I want this amount of money to continue taking care of you, just like the way I will if I could have live lon

42、ger. I want you to know I will always be around, by your side. I love you."Tears flowed like river.記住這些秘密 擁有幸?；橐鲆粯睹罎M的婚姻并不僅僅意味著兩人間的資源共享，它還會給予你更多的感情支持并賦予你邁向成功的勇氣。以下是我在婚姻生活中會定期做的12件事。只要你合理地最大化地運(yùn)用它們，就可以收獲一樁美滿的婚姻。From my perspective, once you enter into the realm of marriage, building and maintainin

43、g a successful marriage is actually a big part of personal and financial success. A solid marriage not only results in people sharing resources together, but a marriage also provides a lot of emotional support, cheerleading, and encouragement to succeed.What follows are twelve little things I do qui

44、te regularly in my marriage. Please, use as many of these as seem reasonable.I tell my wife I love her every single day. I usually do it in the morning before she leaves the bedroom, and on weekdays I'll also tell her when I see her in the evening for the first time. I usually couple it with a k

45、iss. It's so simple, but it's a constant reminder of the fact that I do love her, no matter what.I ask about her day, listen, and ask follow up questions. I do this not only so I can keep tabs on her professional life, but also to give her a great chance to vent about her situation. Everyone

46、 needs to talk about themselves sometimes to someone who is interested - I try to provide that for her as often as I can.I try to surprise her on a regular basis. I'll spend an hour preparing a really excellent supper when she doesn't expect it. I'll spontaneously give the kids a bath wh

47、en she's comfortable on the couch under a blanket, even if it's her turn. Doing these little unexpected things not only shows her I care, but also often compels her to do similar things for me.I hold her hand. I do this all the time, whenever it crosses my mind and seems appropriate. I'l

48、l just hold her hand gently while we're talking or we're riding in the car or we're waiting for an appointment or we're sitting on the couch in the evenings.I talk about EVERYTHING with her and let her determine what's interesting. If something is concerning me, I don't hide

49、it from her. I tell her about it. Most of the time she's interested and we'll discuss it - sometimes she's not and I let it drop (this is key - if she's not into the topic, I don't push it). Either way, though, she gets the message that I'm making an effort to share and be op

50、en.I work on building a positive relationship with her family. Whenever I visit or see anyone in her family, I make a special effort to try to establish or build upon a strong relationship with them. This accomplishes several things: it makes her more at ease in a family situation, it helps me to bu

51、ild stronger ties with people that are important to her, and it helps me to understand the influences that were around her as she grew up.I send her messages during the day.About once a week, during a time where my wife is really present in my thoughts, I send her a little simple note by email. All

52、it says is something along the lines of "I was thinking about you just now. I can't wait until I see you this evening." It's just a very simple way of letting her know she's on my mind and in my heart. I put careful thought into gifts I give her. Sure, it's easy to just run out and get a generic gift to cover yourself