20個好習(xí)慣讓你成為幸福的人

1、I think of myself as the happiest person whenever I walk into a room, and most people notice my smile right away. Here are 20 ways you can find yourself as happy as I am.每當(dāng)我進(jìn)入一個房間的時候，我總是認(rèn)為自己是最幸福的人，大部分的人都會立刻注意到我的微笑。下面是20條習(xí)慣，可以讓你和我一樣幸福。1. Let it go. 順其自然When someone criticizes you or says something no

2、t-so-nice, just forget it. Worse things have been uttered in human history. Even when you know the person meant it, remember that you become stronger by accepting them for who they are and knowing your capabilities.當(dāng)有人批評你或說你壞話時，別往心里去。人類歷史上還發(fā)生過比這更糟糕的事情呢。即便你知道這個人不是在開玩笑，記住，學(xué)會接受并相信自己的能力會讓你變得更強大。2. Be ki

3、nd. 待人友善People who are mean and feel the need to put others down are insecure with themselves. But when you are kind to others, kindness returns to you.有些人刻薄，喜歡貶低別人以求得自身的安全感。但當(dāng)你友善地對待他人時，他們也會用友善回報你。3. Think of your problems as challenges.3.把問題看做挑戰(zhàn)When you come up against a difficulty, whether a perso

4、n or an event, consider what your future self will have learned from it. I believe it was Kanye West, or maybe Nietszche, who said, “What doesnt kill me makes me stronger.”遇到困難時，不論這困難是人還是事，想想你將會從中學(xué)到什么。記不清是坎耶維特斯（Kanye West）還是尼采（Nietszche）曾說過，“那些殺不死我的東西，只會讓我變更強?！?. Express gratitude. 學(xué)會表達(dá)感謝When you le

5、t people know that you appreciate them, they are more willing to help you in the future. Saying thank you is more than good mannersits karma.時時對人表達(dá)感謝之意會使他們在未來更愿意幫助你。說一句“謝謝”不僅僅是禮貌凡事都有因果報應(yīng)。5. Dream big. 理想遠(yuǎn)大The happiest person has reached the highest level of Maslows Hierarchy of Needsself-actualizati

6、on. If you want to be happy you must work hard to achieve something, and strive to attain that life goal.最幸福的人已經(jīng)達(dá)到馬洛斯需求層次的最高層次自我實現(xiàn)。想要幸福，你就得努力工作取得些成就，并努力實現(xiàn)人生目標(biāo)。6. Speak well of others. 稱贊他人The Buddhist notion of “right thought, right action” is an important one. Its in the mind that negativity starts

7、. By clearing your head of negative ideas of others, you will clear your mind of problems, worries and fears, and you wont be tempted to gossip or speak ill and bring that negativity back to you.佛語說“思想正確決定行動正確”，這是個很重要的觀念。消極情緒是從思想中產(chǎn)生的。清除大腦中對他人的負(fù)面想法，就會清除你腦中的問題、擔(dān)憂與恐懼，這樣你就不想八卦或詆毀他人，也不會再把消極情緒帶給自己。7. Be i

8、n the now. 干什么想什么Yes, you have to do your laundry and clean the bathroom when you get home, but while youre here now eating this cheeseburger, just enjoy the cheeseburger. Then apply this lesson to all other moments of pleasure and workyou can deal with the little stuff later.是的，你回家后需要洗衣服、打掃浴室，但現(xiàn)在你正

9、在吃奶酪堡，那就好好享受現(xiàn)在的美食。把這個道理應(yīng)用到其他的娛樂和工作時間你可以等會兒再完成那些瑣事。8. Do not compare yourself to others. 不要把自己和他人作比較As soon as you start this, you fall into a trap of ego, a grasping at the temporal, fleeting aspects of reality. Instead, think about what you have that makes you happy, or at least satisfied.一旦開始，你便會陷

10、入自我意識的陷阱、世俗的貪婪、即逝的現(xiàn)實。相反，想想你擁有的讓你幸福的一切，或者至少讓你滿意的東西。9. Realize you dont need others approval. 清楚你不需要他人的認(rèn)同As long as you do what makes you happy, you dont need other people to condone your actions. This will free you to act on what you believe, which will instill confidence into your every act.只要你的作為讓你

11、開心，那么就不需要他人認(rèn)同的你的行為。這將使你自由地做你信仰的事情，并且一舉一動都充滿自信。10. Be honest. 誠信待人Lies, even little ones, imply that you are willing to be lied to in return. But when you keep your conversation honest, you will maintain a higher level of integrity in your world.謊言，即使是微不足道的小謊，都暗示著別人也可能對你撒謊。但如果你誠信待人，那么你的世界便會充滿誠信。11. T

12、ake time to listen. 學(xué)會傾聽The happiest person doesnt interrupt because she knows that if she wants to be heard, she has to listen to others. By listening instead of waiting to speak, you can understand what motivates others, which can help you build rapport with them and understand yourself.最幸福的人不會打斷他

13、人，因為她知道，如果希望有人傾聽，首先要學(xué)會傾聽他人。傾聽，而不是找機會說話，你會理解他人的動機，這樣可以幫助你與他人建立融洽的關(guān)系，并且可以更好地理解自己。12. Accept what cant be changed. 不能改變的，學(xué)會接受Sure, I wish I was taller, smarter, and better looking. But Im not. As soon as I realized that I wasnt going to be President of the U.S.A., I figured out what I did want to do wi

14、th my life: write.當(dāng)然，我希望我可以再高點、聰明點、好看點，但是我不能。當(dāng)我清楚自己不可能成為美國總統(tǒng)時，我找到了我真正想做的事情：寫作。13. Read daily selections from a book of wisdom. 每天讀本智慧的書籍Magazines and newspapers are all well and good, but the reason people throughout history have dedicated their lives to religion and philosophy is because of the wis

15、dom these sacred texts hold. It doesnt matter if its a Bible, Torah or Quran verse, reading these books of wisdom will remind you of what came before and what will come after you.雜志或報紙都是不錯的選擇。歷史上人們把生命奉獻(xiàn)給宗教或哲學(xué)的原因就是這些神圣語篇里充滿智慧。圣經(jīng)、律法、古蘭經(jīng)都可以，讀這些智慧的書籍會提醒你銘記過去憧憬未來。14. Travel at least two weeks of the year

16、. 每年至少花兩周時間旅行Its even better if its foreign travel. Alas, getting out of the country can be expensive. When you go somewhere different, to remind yourself of how people live in places other than those that youre used to, you will be happy to return to what you have when its time.出國游當(dāng)然是最好的了。唉，但是出國游非常

17、昂貴。到一個不同的環(huán)境，看看那里的生活和你居住的地方有什么不同，這樣，旅行結(jié)束時你會很開心回到原來的地方。15. Catch yourself before negativity starts. 把消極情緒關(guān)在門外Yeah, its easy to read the above points and say, okay, I get it. But the hardest part of being happy is realizing when negativity starts to creep into your mind and from there, getting rid of i

18、t.是的，以上幾條讀起來很容易，你會說，好的，我知道了。但是成為一個幸福的人最困難的部分是，知道什么時候消極情緒會涌上心頭，并及時的制止。16. Dress well. 衣著得體Youre only as good as you feel, and you can only feel good if you look good. Personal hygiene, grooming, and fashion enter into this. Rarely will you find someone well-dressed crying by themselves.只有自己覺得好才是好，而只有

19、儀表得體時才會自我感覺不錯。這包括個人衛(wèi)生、儀容和服裝。你很少遇見衣著講究的人大喊大叫的。17. Enjoy sadness. 享受悲傷John Keats said that in the “temple of delight melancholy has her sovran shrine.” In other words, at the heart of every joy is a glimmer of sadness waiting to shine through. The same goes for sadnesswithin every pain is a reversal o

20、f fortune that will lead you to feel happy again. So when those moments come, enjoy them. They wont last long.約翰濟慈說過“在快樂居住的殿堂里面，隱匿的憂郁有一至尊的偶像?！睋Q句話說，快樂的中心是一絲憂郁等待發(fā)光。反過來也一樣，悲傷的中心是運勢的轉(zhuǎn)換，引領(lǐng)你再次走向快樂。所以，悲傷來臨時，學(xué)會享受，它不會待很久的。18. Eat well. 吃得營養(yǎng)You are what you eat, so if youre stuffing yourself with cheeseburgers and hot dogs every day, chances are you are overweight and you lack energy and mental clarity. Instead, make sure to eat enough fruit and vegetables, protein and carbohydratesand indulge in moderation.人如其食，所以如果你每天都吃奶酪堡和熱狗，那么很有可能你很胖，并且缺乏活力和清醒的頭腦。相反，每天應(yīng)該多吃蔬菜和水果，攝入