愛情持久彌新的7個小秘密.doc

愛情持久彌新的7個小秘密Its not diamonds and flowers that make a relationship remain as warm, loving and intimate as it was at the start. Its the little things. So check out the tips that follow.讓一段感情保持最初的溫馨、愛戀和親密的，并不是鉆石或鮮花，而是生活中的小細節(jié)。1.Praise Your Partner for the Little Things贊美對方If theres something you appreciate about your partner, from the way he or she makes scrambled eggs to how hard he or she is working on decorating the bedroom, speak up. Praise provides a reminder of your love.如果有一些小事讓你很欣賞你的另一半，不管是他/她炒雞蛋做得很好吃，還是他/她很辛苦地裝飾臥室，都記得要說出來。贊美是愛情的表達方式。2.Be Thoughtful要體貼The good we do tends to come back to us. When youre thoughtful to your partner, he or shes more inclined to be thoughtful in return. So remember to buy each others favourite dessert, cut out or email articles you think your partner might like, or take on the others jobs like arranging for your partner to have a day off, with no housework or expectations.我們的善舉總是會有所回報。如果你對你的伴侶體貼照顧，他/她也會用體貼入微來回報你，所以要記得買對方最愛吃的甜點，把對方可能愛看的文章剪下來或者電郵過去，幫他/她安排一天沒有家務(wù)輕松自在的假期休息下。3. Keep Your Promises堅守承諾Failing to keep your word can destroy the unity and trust in a relationship. Its better to say Let me think about it than to say youll do something but fail to deliver.不守承諾會毀了一段感情的和睦和信任。所以最好常說“讓我想一想”，而不是夸下海口卻沒辦法實現(xiàn)諾言。4.Share Your Passions分享熱情Take turns choosing an arts or cultural event to attend together each month. The point is to show your partner what you love, so that he or she can experience it as you do (or close enough). To make this work, both of you have to be flexible: someone might have to attend a football match or the theatre. The reward lies in experiencing each others passion. And who knows you may have a lot more fun than you ever imagined.每月輪流選擇并一起參加一項藝術(shù)或者文化活動。這么做，是向你的愛人展示你的愛好，這樣他/她也可以和你一起經(jīng)歷(或者近距離感受)。想要做好這一點，你們倆都必須很寬容并愿意配合：可能有人得去看足球比賽或者去劇院。這樣做的好處是可以體會對方到某些事物的熱愛之情。而且說不定，你會發(fā)現(xiàn)其中的樂趣比你想象得要多得多！5. Kiss Under a Full Moon在月夜下親吻On a fine evening, spread a blanket under the night sky and drink in the beauty and quiet of your surroundings together. You can talk if you wish, or simply savour the silence and the experience of being together, side-by-side, under the stars.找個天氣不錯的晚上，在夜空下鋪條毯子，在美麗安靜的環(huán)境下一起喝點酒?？梢粤狞c什么，或者只是肩并肩躺在星空下，享受寧靜時光和兩個人在一起的感覺。6. Play the Honeymoon Game玩玩蜜月游戲Do something for your partner that you did when you were newlyweds or first got together. Make a special meal. Send some flowers after a night of lovemaking. Tuck notes in unexpected places.回想下你們新婚燕爾或剛在一起的時候你為他/她做過什么，再做一次吧。做頓特別的飯菜，一夜纏綿后送束花，或者在他/她意想不到的地方留個愛心小便條。7. Discuss the Big Things in Life討論生活中的大事When you were courting, did you talk for hours about current events or the meaning of life? If all you seem to talk about now is the grocery shopping or how much to spend on a new sofa, reintroduce meaningful conversation into your relationship. Try this: one night, while youre in front of the TV or in the car, make a provocative (but not hurtful) remark about something your partner cares deeply about the government, a sportsman or woman something that will get his or her dander up. He or she will disagree, of course, which will get the ball rolling. And keep it rolling!戀愛的時候，你們有沒有花大把的時間來談?wù)摃r事或者探究生命的意義？如果現(xiàn)在你們只會談些瑣碎小事，像去雜貨店買東西或者新沙發(fā)要花多少錢這類的，那你們就需要在你們的感情里再次添加些有意義的對話。不如試試這個：有一天，當(dāng)你坐在電視前或者在車?yán)锏臅r候，就你的愛人很關(guān)注的事情(政府或者運動員都可以)發(fā)表一些挑釁的言論(不要語出傷人)，講一些可能會讓他生氣發(fā)怒的話。他/她肯定不會同意你的觀點啦，這樣談話才能繼續(xù)下去嘛，繼續(xù)聊吧。How to Deal With Bullies如何應(yīng)對欺負你的人If youre someone who aspires to something beyond the ordinary, you must have figured out by now that there will always be those who are jealous or resentful of your success.如果你想不走尋常路，做出些非凡的成就，那你就要明白總有那么一些人會對你的成就心生嫉妒與怨恨。It doesnt matter that youve worked long and hard to get where you are, nor that youve made great sacrifices in achieving your goals. The haters will always find a reason tocriticize and even condemn you.無論你工作有多努力，或者你做出了多大的犧牲才獲得了現(xiàn)在的成就，那些“恨你的人”總能找到理由來批評你，甚至詆毀你。Theyre spiteful people who begrudge you the pride you have in yourself and the recognition youre receiving from others. They cant stand it that youre happy, fulfilled and achieving your goals.對你心生不滿的人看不慣你對自我的肯定，也見不得你得到別人的認(rèn)可。他們無法忍受你的快樂、滿足和成功。These hateful individuals are unwilling to do the work that youve done; they rarely make the same kinds of sacrifices or put in the long, hard hours. They resent your success but are too lazy or spoiled to invest real time or energy in the pursuit of their own goals.這些嫉恨你的人不愿意去做你所做過的事，不愿意同你一樣做出犧牲，也不愿意花時間心血去工作，他們只是嫉妒你的成功，卻永遠懶得去花時間和力氣去完成自己的目標(biāo)。Its true that we arent always going to succeed in our ventures, even if we put in the time and effort. Results are never guaranteed and life has a way of throwing curve balls at us.誠然，有時候即使我們付出了時間和努力，也未必能成功。誰也不能保證生活會是一帆風(fēng)順的，有時，它也會跟你打個擦邊球。I loved it when Tina Fey went up to collect her Golden Globe and held it high, saying, This is for all the haters! Shes a good example of a talented, hard-working and successful person whos received an inordinate amount of negative press. Ms. Fey may be besieged by haters but she refuses to let them get to her.我喜歡蒂娜-菲在金球獎領(lǐng)獎時說過的話，她把獎杯高高舉起，說道，“感謝那些討厭我的人！”蒂娜就是富有天賦、工作努力而且獲得成功的好例子，同時，她也收到了無數(shù)負面抨擊，但她從未讓這些流言蜚語影響到自己。The thing you need to know about these haters is that the only reason they behave this way is that you have something they want but they arent willing to work for it.你只要記?。哼@些嫉恨你的人，他們討厭你的唯一理由就是他們想得到你所得到的，卻不愿意付出你所付出的。The haters are convinced that youve been lucky or that youve had some unfair advantage but the truth is that your success is born of your untiring efforts, and its these efforts that have brought about your luck.討厭你的人總覺得你只不過是運氣好而已，或者你走了后門，但事實是，你是通過自己的不懈努力才做出了成績，這些努力才是你的“好運”所在。The best way to deal with haters is what I call the one-two punch. First, dont let them phase you. Be happy about your success and proud of your accomplishments. Let in the approval and the recognition from affirming, supportive people and never doubt that you deserve all this. The haters are angry, jealous people. What they think or say is ultimately meaningless.對付嫉恨你的人的最好辦法就是下面這套“組合拳”。第一，別讓他們影響到你。盡情地為自己取得的成功而感到高興和自豪吧，和那些