What does being a lady actually mean in the 21st century 如何定義新時(shí)代淑女

Whatdoesbeingaladyactuallymeaninthe21stcentury如何定義新時(shí)代淑女？RumorsarecirculatingthatAmericanactressAnneHathawayisreplacingCareyMulligantostarinaremakeofthe1964filmMyFairLady.It’sstillamysterywhowillfinallysnagtheroleofElizaDoolittle,avulgarflowergirlwhoistransformedintoaladybyalanguageexpert,butthenewshasdefinitelycalledattentiontotheword“l(fā)ady”.有傳聞稱美國(guó)女星安妮?海瑟薇將取代凱瑞?穆里根，在1964年經(jīng)典電影《窈窕淑女》的翻拍版中出演女一號(hào)。片中的女主人公伊莉莎?杜利特爾在一位語(yǔ)言學(xué)家的教導(dǎo)下，從粗俗的賣花姑娘變身為窈窕淑女，盡管最終伊莉莎這一角色將花落誰(shuí)家仍是未知，但這則新聞毫無(wú)疑問(wèn)將人們的視線轉(zhuǎn)移到了“淑女”一詞上。ThewordalwaysconjuresupimagesofwomenintheVictorianeraofBritishhistoryorJaneAustennovels.Butdowehavetogobacktodressinginthatstyletobealady?Whatdoesbeingaladyactuallymeaninthe21stcentury?這一詞匯總是讓人們聯(lián)想起英國(guó)歷史上的維多利亞時(shí)代以及簡(jiǎn)?奧斯汀小說(shuō)中的女性形象。但要成為淑女，就非得選擇這種復(fù)古裝扮么？21世紀(jì)，淑女到底是如何定義的呢？BritishetiquettetutorWilliamHansontoldTheTelegraphthatbeingaladytodayisallabouteleganceandconfidence.“Thebehaviordoesn’tneedtobesomethingstraightoutofaJaneAustennovel,”hesaid.Butthatdoesn’tmeantherearenospecificrulestobeingamoderndaylady.AccordingtoHansonandotherexpertsonetiquette,arealladymusttickallthefollowingboxesofstyleandmanner.英國(guó)禮儀顧問(wèn)威廉?漢森在接受《每日電訊報(bào)》采訪時(shí)表示，現(xiàn)如今，淑女的判定標(biāo)準(zhǔn)不外乎優(yōu)雅與自信?！靶袨榕e止不必照搬簡(jiǎn)?奧斯汀小說(shuō)，”他說(shuō)。但這并不意味著新時(shí)代淑女無(wú)規(guī)可循。漢森和其他禮儀專家一致認(rèn)為，一位真正的淑女必須嚴(yán)格遵守以下這些有關(guān)風(fēng)度與禮儀的條條框框。Education教育背景BeingeducatedwasoneoftheessentialqualitiesofaladyinthetimeofJaneAusten,whenthemiddleclasswascommonlyeducatedathome.InPride&Prejudice,CarolineBingleysays:“Awomanmusthaveathoroughknowledgeofmusic,singing,drawing,dancingandthemodernlanguagestodeservetheword[lady].”MrDarcyaddsthatanaccomplishedladymustalsoimprovehermindthroughextensivereading.在簡(jiǎn)?奧斯汀時(shí)代，受過(guò)良好的教育是一位淑女的必備素質(zhì)，當(dāng)時(shí)的中產(chǎn)階級(jí)普遍在家接受教育。在《傲慢與偏見》中，卡洛琳?賓利說(shuō)：“一個(gè)女人必須精通音樂(lè)、歌唱、美術(shù)、舞蹈以及現(xiàn)代語(yǔ)文，那才當(dāng)?shù)闷稹缗@個(gè)稱號(hào)。”達(dá)西先生接著補(bǔ)充道，一位有修養(yǎng)的淑女還要多讀書，長(zhǎng)見識(shí)。Thiseducationalrequirementhasn’tbeencompromisedmuch.Aladybytoday’sstandardsmusteducateherselfineverypossibleway,fromhighereducationtocommonsensemanners,accordingtoCandiceSimpson,authorofHowtoBeaLady:AContemporaryGuidetoCommonCourtesy.如今，對(duì)于教育背景的要求并未大打折扣。《淑女養(yǎng)成計(jì)劃：當(dāng)代基本禮儀指南》一書的作者坎蒂斯?辛普森說(shuō)，當(dāng)代標(biāo)準(zhǔn)下的淑女必須極盡所能地去提升自己，既要接受高等教育又要學(xué)習(xí)禮儀常識(shí)。Dresscode著裝要求Oneofthebiggestmisconceptionsofaladyisthatshecan’tbefashionable,pointedoutEuniceJLeongof.Asamodernexampleofalady,DuchessofCambridgeKateMiddletonhasprovedthatit’spossibletobeelegantandfashionableatthesametime.Butelegantfashionisusuallyunderstatedandsimple―ostentatiousdesignerlogosshouldbeavoided.來(lái)自網(wǎng)站的尤尼斯?J?梁指出，人們對(duì)淑女最大的誤解就是淑女與時(shí)尚絕緣。作為當(dāng)代淑女的典范，劍橋公爵夫人凱特?米德爾頓已經(jīng)證明時(shí)尚與優(yōu)雅可以并存。但優(yōu)雅的時(shí)尚通常是低調(diào)而簡(jiǎn)約的——應(yīng)避免高調(diào)的品牌標(biāo)志。Inaddition,accordingtoHanson,aladyneverfeelstheneedtoshowherflesh,legsorcleavage―shealwaysletshernaturalbeautyshine.Hansonevenprescribesstrictskirtlengths.Hebelievesaladyshouldneverwearanygarmentthatrisestoofarabovetheknee―ifnecessary,sheshouldweardarkcoloredtights.Basedonthisrule,LadyGaga,oneofthemostfamousladiesofourtimes,shouldbesimplyGaga.英國(guó)禮儀顧問(wèn)威廉?漢森還表示，真正的淑女從不需要露肉，露腿或者露乳溝——她永遠(yuǎn)散發(fā)出自然美。漢森甚至規(guī)定了嚴(yán)格的裙長(zhǎng)要求。他認(rèn)為，淑女不應(yīng)穿任何膝上過(guò)短的裙子。若有必要，也應(yīng)該配上一條深色的打底褲。從這一點(diǎn)看，時(shí)下最知名女性之一的LadyGaga大概只能改叫Gaga了。Tablemanners餐桌禮儀Atrueladyknowsthatsheisexpectedtobegineatingfirst,beforethemen,saidHanson.Sodon’tfaffaround,asatruegentlemanwilljustsittherewatchinghisfoodgocoldasyoucarryonchattering.漢森表示，真正的淑女清楚自己在用餐時(shí)應(yīng)該優(yōu)先于男士。所以不要瞎忙活一通，因?yàn)橐晃徽嬲募澥靠墒菚?huì)一直聽著你嘮叨然后眼睜睜地看著自己的食物冷掉的。Amuchforgottenskill,addedHanson,is“turningthetable”.Britain’sQueenElizabethIIisstillanadvocateofthis.Itmeansspeakingtothepersononeithersideofyou,oneaftertheother.Duringthefirstcoursealadyspeakstothepersononherleft,duringthesecondcourseshespeakstothepersononherright,andsoon.Andnooneevertalksacrossthetable.漢森補(bǔ)充道，另一個(gè)被大多數(shù)人所遺忘的禮儀技巧便是“扭轉(zhuǎn)局面”。英國(guó)女王伊麗莎白二世仍是這點(diǎn)的提倡者。所謂“扭轉(zhuǎn)局面”，意思是說(shuō)要先后與坐在你兩邊人交談。在享用第一道菜時(shí)，作為淑女要跟坐在自己左邊的人交談，上第二道菜時(shí)則換做與右邊的人交談，以此類推。切記，不要隔著桌子與人交談。Artofwords語(yǔ)言藝術(shù)Althoughitcanbetemptingtogossipquietlyaboutafriendorcloseacquaintance,aladyshouldavoidmeangossip,saidHanson.Itleavesabadimpressiononothers,eveniftheyarejoiningin.Ifyoufreelygossipaboutsomeone,otherswillbegintowonderifyougossipaboutthemtoothers.漢森說(shuō)，盡管大家都愛背后講朋友或熟人的閑話，但淑女必須遠(yuǎn)離那些尖酸刻薄的流言蜚語(yǔ)。這會(huì)給他人留下糟糕的印象，即便他們也樂(lè)在其中。當(dāng)你無(wú)所顧忌，大爆某人的八卦時(shí)，其他人會(huì)想，你是