《失敗的饋贈(zèng)》書籍目錄整理

1、失敗的饋贈(zèng)書籍目錄整理推廣宣傳語：不讓孩子摔一跤，他怎么知道如何爬起來？（2015.8上市）分類：媽媽來了作者：杰西卡·雷希國別：美國關(guān)于本書：俗話說失敗是成功之母，然而隨著社會(huì)的進(jìn)步，父母的育兒方式也變成了處處保護(hù)和控制，不給孩子犯錯(cuò)的機(jī)會(huì)，殊不知這也剝奪了他們探索和學(xué)習(xí)的機(jī)會(huì)。在失敗的饋贈(zèng)這本書里，作者用各種心理實(shí)驗(yàn)的例子，提出了強(qiáng)有力的理由，勸告家長們不要做“控制型”的父母，而是要做“支持型”的父母，放手讓孩子們從失敗中學(xué)習(xí)，并給他們適當(dāng)?shù)墓膭?lì)和知道。唯有這樣，才能讓孩子們認(rèn)識(shí)到自己的價(jià)值和能力，從而幫助他們提高自信心、增強(qiáng)獨(dú)立性和責(zé)任感。路上讀書聽書提煉的本書金句：1. 要培

2、養(yǎng)孩子的積極性，就必須讓他們自己去摸爬滾打，來發(fā)現(xiàn)解決問題的方法。To foster enthusiasm, children must find their own way of solving problems. But how do you make a student excited about school? Well, the key rule for caregivers is to take a step back.2. 所以說，我們要做“支持型”而不是“控制型”的家長，也就是在適當(dāng)?shù)臅r(shí)候給孩子意見和指導(dǎo)，而不是掌控他們的全部。You should therefore opt

3、for autonomy-supportive parenting, rather than controlling parenting.3. 我們不僅要接受孩子的失敗，同樣也要學(xué)著接受自己做父母時(shí)的失敗。只要能讓孩子知道，不論他們是否成功，你都一樣愛他們，這你就走對(duì)路了。In the same way that you make it okay for your children to fail, make it okay for yourself to fail as a parent, too! But as long as you show your children that you

4、r love isnt dependent on their success, youll always be on the right path.4. 與其在孩子取得好成績后夸他，我們不如試著去肯定孩子們?yōu)榱藴?zhǔn)備考試而付出的努力。孩子們?cè)绞窍嘈拍芰κ强梢酝ㄟ^努力和堅(jiān)持培養(yǎng)起來，就會(huì)越不怕失敗。Instead of saying how wonderful your child is after he or she gets a good grade, try valuing the effort he or she put into preparing for the test. The m

5、ore children believe that their talent can develop with effort and perseverance, the less they will fear failure.5. 為了正確客觀地看待成績，可以和孩子一起設(shè)定一個(gè)適合他的目標(biāo)，而不是課本要求的目標(biāo)。多花時(shí)間和孩子交流，支持他們，關(guān)注他們的努力過程而不是最終結(jié)果。They can help them set educational goals. To put grades in perspective, help your children set self-determined

6、goals instead of goals dictated by the school curriculum. Take your time and talk with your kids, support them, and focus on their effort, not the end result.路上讀書整理的本書小節(jié)標(biāo)題：1. 失敗是給家長和孩子最棒的禮物2. 我們的育兒理念隨著時(shí)代而改變3. 孩子的熱情應(yīng)當(dāng)來自內(nèi)在動(dòng)力而不是外部獎(jiǎng)勵(lì)4. 教育的重點(diǎn)應(yīng)該是引導(dǎo)孩子自主做決定5. 用正確的方式贊美孩子6. 做家務(wù)能讓孩子體會(huì)到目標(biāo)感7. 孩子之間的自由交流有助于他們成長8.

7、成績不是全部，孩子自己定下的目標(biāo)更有意義1. Whats in it for me? Give yourself and your kids the greatest gift of all: failure!2. Our view on children and their education has changed throughout history.3. Childrens enthusiasm must come from their own motivation instead of rewards.4. Education should center on guiding children to make their own decisions.5. The right type of praise encourages your child.6. Household duties give children an early sense of purpose.7. Regular, free communication with other children helps childre