ValentinesDayOffers.doc

Radio program appreciationValentines Day Offers a Chance to Refocus on What Love Is All AboutThese are important days for makers of sweets and sellers of flowers. For owners of fine restaurants and publishers of greeting cards. For salespeople at clothing stores. And for all the people whose job is to make other peoples hair and fingernails look their best. These are important days because soon it will be February fourteenth, Valentines Day. This week on our program, we ask three generations of people what the holiday for love and romance means to them. We begin with the youngest generation. Sixteen-year-old Jarrah was with a group of Chinese students visiting the United States. What does Valentines Day mean to her? I know thats a Western festival for lovers who date or they love each other. We are not allowed to date in high school. She explains that some people in China may celebrate Valentines Day, but China also has its own version. It is based on the story of a fairy from heaven who comes to Earth and marries a cowhand on a farm. In the end, they are permitted to meet just once a year, on the seventh day of the seventh lunar month. Theres a girl named Zhi Nu and a boy named Niu Lang. Now they are stars in the sky, so they meet each other in lunar months, seventh in July, each year once. We celebrate that day like the Valentines Day in Western culture. So how did February fourteenth come to be celebrated as it is? Explanations date back to ancient Rome. But nothing is sure, not even the identity of the Roman Catholic saint celebrated by this day. As a result, in nineteen sixty-nine, the church removed Saint Valentines Day from its official worldwide calendar of Catholic feasts. But the popular meaning of Valentines Day continues to capture hearts around the world, even if not always on February fourteenth. Camile and Nietzsche were among a group of Brazilian Youth Ambassadors visiting the United States. We have Valentines Day but in a different day. Its June twelfth. So in Brazil, I would translate as the Day of the Couple. And its like you dont give friends or family gifts, you give your boyfriend or your girlfriend. And the guys, they are sometimes pretty boring because they like to give chocolate and flowers. And girls are tired and sick of that. Yeah! So I believe Id better give a hot Brazilian kiss. It would be better on the Day of the Couple. Next, we talk to some college students. Jack Feldman is from Iowa in the American Midwest. What is his best Valentines Day memory? Any and all Valentines when I actually had a girlfriend. And the worst memory? All the other ones. He remembers as a child choosing valentine cards to give to his classmates, a tradition for American schoolchildren. I always tried to get like the coolest ones, like the Pokeman ones and trying to give them out to everybody. I only wanted to give them to all the cute girls, but you had to give them to everybody back then. Andrew Shim is twenty-two years old, from Maryland. We asked him what American teenagers like to do for Valentines Day. He listed the usual - chocolate, a movie, maybe go to a party. But then we asked him if he had ever done anything special. Oh yeah, I actually made my own chocolate at home. But I kind of messed it up. It was OK, I give to that person I like. It didnt turn out well, but you know, I mean it was a nice memory though, a good experience making chocolate. Andrew Shim and Jack Feldman are doing college internship programs in Washington. So are these three international students we are about to meet, starting with Jeong Kim from Seoul. Normally in Korea, well the girls take the opportunity to give out chocolates to guys that they have a crush on. In Mexico were used to like for, for more for couples, not like so for friends and stuff. Its a cool day because everybody gets to give balloons and chocolates and all that stuff to the person youre in a relationship in or whatever. In Canada its pretty much the same as the U.S. Its very consumer based, where we buy chocolate. We go to the restaurant, have a romantic dinner. Every day should be Valentines Day, right? Those last two voices were Kattia from Mexico and Sonia Ziade from Montreal, Canada. Now we talk to a group of parents. They all live in the Washington area and are involved together in the Boy Scouts of America. Ming Hong Ward came to the United States from China in nineteen eighty-nine. What does Valentines Day mean to her? I was in college when I came to United States and it was interesting that in America they celebrate people in love and express love to each other, because in China people are very reserved and they do not show appreciation openly. Andrea Liddell says she and her husband exchange cards for Valentines Day. I look forward to getting flowers and, if Im really lucky, a date. We get to go out together. And what is her best Valentines Day memory? I knew youd ask that. Valentines Day . when Ive been surprised. When we had like a surprise - we got to go out to someplace very fancy, didnt really know what was going to happen ahead of time. That was a really lovely one. It involved a lot of food at that time. And her worst memory? Let me get back to you on that. Oh, oh, oh - in college, the boyfriend who absolutely forgot Valentines Day. That hurt my feelings. So there you go, that was the worst one. Lauri and Bob Dacey have been married for twenty years. Any special memories of Valentines Day? I dont remember any one in particular. I mean, theyre pretty much the same, like well just celebrate, exchange cards, may go out to dinner. So once we had the children, Valentines Day, I think, became more about them. We were starting to give them gifts and treats and really not going out in the evening anymore for that day. And Bob, I mean whats a typical gift, Valentines Day gift that you buy? Candy and sweets all the time. And we always have those little hearts. Thats what my fondest memory is, too, of the little Valentines hearts that come out once a year, little candies with little nice kind of love sayings on them. And what does Valentines Day mean to their children in school? In school, I think it means exchanging cards and getting a candy, or multiple candies. And they exchange cards, they sometimes decorate nice little boxes so they can put valentines in each others box in school. Bob Steinrauf has been married for almost twenty-eight years. What does he think of Valentines Day? I think its actually a good opportunity to remember those things that we want to do on Valentines Day - you know, special things for the spouse or whoever - you probably ought to do them year-round. Because so often, especially with guys, youll say, Hey, we had Valentines Day. I got you roses, I got you chocolate, it says I love you. What more do we need? But I think it really is a call to make sure you remember to do that during the day, during the week, during the months before and after Valentines Day. Does he follow his own advice? You would have to get the second opinion from my wife. Sometimes yes, but not as much as I ought to. And sometimes, as the old saying goes, it is the thought that counts. Early in our marriage my wife came - she was going to school and working late and driving home, so I baked a cake. Now it was not just any old cake. It came in the round cake pans, and I baked it, but then I attempted to cut out a heart and used pink icing and decorated it. Now the sides of the cake fell apart tremendously. But that was probably the best thing I could have done. She looked at it. It was pathetic. But she goes Oh, I love you. So that was a nice Valentines Day. Not everyone is a big fan of Valentines Day. This is Joe Durso, twenty years old, from Louisville, Kentucky. What does it mean to him? Nothing, and Im not even sure when it is. If I was in the chocolate business I think I would probably support it. Or in the flower business. But it isnt really something that matters to me.This seemed to be a dissenting opinion, though, at least among the people we spoke to. Next we meet a group of friends from a social club in Northern Virginia, including Marge Lubeley. Reporter Nancy Steinbach asked her what she does on Valentines Day. I usually get together with a daughter and a granddaughter and we go out to dinner and exchange gifts. Im a widow and so this is a fun time for me. How about before, when you were single and younger? It wasnt that important. But when I married, it was always a dozen red roses from my husband. So it was special. Sally Margolis also lost her husband. But two of her four children live locally. So on Valentines Day she might go out to dinner with one of them or babysit for her grandchildren. I think its a nice remembrance. Its a nice h