TED英語(yǔ)演講稿：請(qǐng)別忘記感謝身邊的人

1、TED英語(yǔ)演講稿：請(qǐng)別忘記感謝身邊的人hi. im here to talk to you about the importance of praise,admiration and thank you, and having it be specific and genuine.嗨。我在這里要和大家談?wù)?向別人表達(dá)贊美，傾佩 和謝意的重要性。 并使它們聽(tīng)來(lái)真誠(chéng)，具體。and the way i got interested in this was, i noticed in myself,when i was growing up, and until about a few years a

2、go, that iwould want to say thank you to someone, i would want to praisethem, i would want to take in their praise of me and id just stop it.and i asked myself, why? i felt shy, i felt embarrassed. and thenmy question became, am i the only one who does this? so, idecided to investigate.之所以我對(duì)此感興趣 是因?yàn)?/p>

3、我從我自己的成長(zhǎng)中注 意到幾年前， 當(dāng)我想要對(duì)某個(gè)人說(shuō)聲謝謝時(shí)， 當(dāng)我想 要贊美他們時(shí)， 當(dāng)我想接受他們對(duì)我的贊揚(yáng)， 但我卻 沒(méi)有說(shuō)出口。 我問(wèn)我自己，這是為什么?我感到害羞， 我感到尷尬。 接著我產(chǎn)生了一個(gè)問(wèn)題 難道我是唯一一 個(gè)這么做的人嗎?所以我決定做些探究。im fortunate enough to work in the rehab facility, so i get tosee people who are facing life and death with addiction. andsometimes it comes down to something as simpl

4、e as, their corewound is their father died without ever saying hes proud of them.but then, they hear from all the family and friends that the fathertold everybody else that he was proud of him, but he never toldthe son. its because he didnt know that his son needed to hear it.我非常幸運(yùn)的在一家康復(fù)中心工作， 所以我可以看

5、 到那些因?yàn)樯习a而面臨生與死的人。 有時(shí)候這一切可以 非常簡(jiǎn)單地歸結(jié)為， 他們最核心的創(chuàng)傷來(lái)自于他們父親 到死都未說(shuō)過(guò)他為他們而自豪。 但他們從所有其它家庭 或朋友那里得知 他的父親告訴其他人為他感到自豪， 但這個(gè)父親從沒(méi)告訴過(guò)他兒子。 因?yàn)樗恢浪膬鹤?需要聽(tīng)到這一切。so my question is, why dont we ask for the things that we need?i know a gentleman, married for 25 years, whos longing to hearhis wife say, thank you for being the

6、 breadwinner, so i can stayhome with the kids, but wont ask. i know a womanwhos good atthis. she, once a week, meets with her husband and says, idreally like you to thank me for all these things idid in the house and with the kids. and he goes, oh, this is great,this is great. and praise really does

7、 have to be genuine, but shetakes responsibility for that. and a friend of mine, april, who ivehad since kindergarten, she thanks her children for doing theirchores. and she said, why wouldnt i thank it, even though theyresupposed to do it?因此我的問(wèn)題是， 為什么我們不索求我們需要的東 西呢?我認(rèn)識(shí)一個(gè)結(jié)婚25年的男士 渴望聽(tīng)到他妻子說(shuō)， 感謝你為這個(gè)家在外

8、賺錢(qián)，這樣我才能在家陪伴著孩子， 但他從來(lái)不去問(wèn)。 我認(rèn)識(shí)一個(gè)精于此道的女士。 每周 一次，她見(jiàn)到丈夫后會(huì)說(shuō)， 我真的希望你為我對(duì)這個(gè)家 和孩子們付出的努力而感謝我。 他會(huì)應(yīng)和到哦，真是太 棒了，真是太棒了。 贊揚(yáng)別人一定要真誠(chéng)， 但她對(duì)贊 美承擔(dān)了責(zé)任。 一個(gè)從我上幼兒園就一直是朋友的叫april的人， 她會(huì)感謝她的孩子們做了家務(wù)。 她說(shuō)： 為什么我不表示感謝呢，即使他們本來(lái)就要做那些事情?so, the question is, why was i blocking it? why were otherpeople blocking it? why can i say, ill take

9、my steak medium rare,i need size six shoes, but i wont say, would you praise me thisway? and its because im giving you critical data about me. imtelling you where im insecure. im telling you wherei need your help. and im treating you, myinner circle, like yourethe enemy. because what can you do with

10、 that data? you couldneglect me. you could abuse it. or you could actually meet myneed.因此我的問(wèn)題是，為什么我不說(shuō)呢?為什么其它人 不說(shuō)呢?為什么我能說(shuō)：我要一塊中等厚度的牛排， 我 需要6號(hào)尺寸的鞋子， 但我卻不能說(shuō)：你可以贊揚(yáng)我嗎 因?yàn)檫@會(huì)使我把我的重要信息與你分享。 會(huì)讓我告訴了 你我內(nèi)心的不安。會(huì)讓你認(rèn)為我需要你的幫助。 雖然 你是我最貼心的人， 我卻把你當(dāng)作是敵人。 你會(huì)用我 托付給你的重要信息做些什么呢?你可以忽視我。 你可 以濫用它。 或者你可以滿(mǎn)足我的要求。and i took my bik

11、e into the bike store- i love this - same bike,and theyd do something called truing the wheels. the guy said,you know, when you true the wheels, its going to make the bikeso much better. i get the same bike back, and theyve taken allthe little warps out of those same wheels ive had for two and ahalf

12、 years, and my bike is like new. so, im going to challenge allof you. i want you to true your wheels: be honest about thepraise that you need to hear. what do you need to hear? gohome to your wife - go ask her, what does she need? go hometo your husband - what does he need? go home and ask thoseques

13、tions, and then help the people around you.我把我的自行車(chē)拿到車(chē)行-我喜歡這么做-同樣的 自行車(chē)，他們會(huì)對(duì)車(chē)輪做整形。 那里的人說(shuō)：當(dāng)你對(duì)車(chē) 輪做整形時(shí)， 它會(huì)使自行車(chē)變成更好。 我把這輛自行 車(chē)拿回來(lái)， 他們把有小小彎曲的鐵絲從輪子上拿走 這 輛車(chē)我用了2年半，現(xiàn)在還像新的一樣。所以我要問(wèn)在場(chǎng)的所有人， 我希望你們把你們的車(chē)輪整形一下： 真 誠(chéng)面對(duì)對(duì)你們想聽(tīng)到的贊美。 你們想聽(tīng)到什么呢?回家 問(wèn)問(wèn)你們的妻子，她想聽(tīng)到什么?回家問(wèn)問(wèn)你們的丈夫， 他想聽(tīng)到什么?回家問(wèn)問(wèn)這些問(wèn)題，并幫助身邊的人實(shí) 現(xiàn)它們。and its simple. and why s

14、hould we care about this? we talkabout world peace. how can we have world peace with differentcultures, different languages? i think it starts household byhousehold, under the sameroof. so, lets makeit right in our ownbackyard. and i want to thank all of you in the audience for beinggreat husbands, great mothers, friends, daughters, sons. andmaybe somebodys never said that to you, but youve done areally, really good job. and thank you for being here, justshowing up and changing the world with your ideas.非常簡(jiǎn)單。 為什么要關(guān)心這個(gè)呢?我們