中西方婚姻觀的差異

TheDifferentMarriageViewsbetweenChinaandWestProducedbyFinance1001ShiXiangjunE-mail:sxj19921008@163.comOutline

Thedifferentpurposeongettingmarried

Thedifferentstandardofchoosingaspouse(配偶)Thedifferentrelationshipbetweenhusbandandwife

ThedifferentweddingceremonyThe

ChineseMarriagePurpose

ThetraditionalChinesemarriageisdesignedforfamiliesratherthanlove.AndChinesetraditionalpurposeonmarriageistomakeboththefamiliesbecomestronger.Ofcourse,intoday'sChinesesociety,thiskindoftraditionalpurposeonmarriageisgreatlyinfluencedbythewest.However,inChina,suchahighlytraditionalsociety,makinglovebecomethemainpurposeofmarriageisstillnotasimplematter.

The

WesternMarriagePurposeThepursuitoftrueloveisthemostimportantmarriagepurposeforwesterners.Theylongtofindtheirownlifelongcompaniontomeettheirphysiology（生理上的）andpsychological(心理上的)needs.Westernpeopleemphasize(強(qiáng)調(diào))people’sindependenceandtheyarealwaysself-centered.Intheirview:amarriagewithoutloveisimmoralandoflowquality.

TheChineseStandardofChoosingaSpouse

ForChinese,thefirstfactortoconsideristhefamily’sbackground.Second,thetwofamiliesshouldbeontheequalsocialstatus.Andthefinancialconditionshouldbewell.Then,theeducationbackgroundistakenintoconsideration.Thelastfactortothinkistheperson’sappearanceandfigures.TheWesternStandardofChoosingaSpouse

Forwesterners,themostimportantfactoristhetwoperson’sfeelings.Iftheyfeelnicewitheachother,theymaycombinewitheachother.Therestconditionssuchasthefamilybackgroundoreducationbackground,theymaynottakeintoaccount.

TheChineseRelationshipbetweenHusbandandWife

InChina,thehusbandoftenplaysaleadingroleinthemarriage,andhiswifeistothesubordinatestatus.Thiskindofmarriagestructureisduetothetraditionalculturaldivision,thatis"Malemasteroutsideandwomenmasterinside".

Thehusbandundertakesthefamilylife'smaineconomicresponsibilitywhilethewife’stasksaremanaginghousework,takingcareoftheirparents,helpingthehusbandandteachingtheirchildren.InChina,peoplethinkthatbeingfull-timehousewifeisuniversalandthewomanishappy,buttheyalwayslookdownuponthemanwhobecomesfull-timehouseman.

ThetraditionalattitudetomarriageofChinais

aharmoniousunionlastingahundredyears.Theypaymoreattentiontoresponsibility.Babyisthemostimportantfactortokeepmarriage.TheWesternRelationshipbetweenHusbandandWife

Thewesternersbelievethatthehusbandandwifeshouldbeequal.Intheirownwords:"Husbandandwifeshouldbeequalpartners.“Inwesterncountries,thehusbandsandthewivescanallfindjobsoutsideandundertakethefamilylife'seconomicresponsibilitytogether.Thehusbandsalsodosomehouseworkandcooking,sometimestheircookingskillmaybebetterthantheirwives.Theyalsosharetheresponsibilityoftakingcareofchildren.Theyalwayseducateandlookaftertheirchildrentogether.ChineseweddingceremonyThemass-toneattuneofthewholeweddingisred,anditwasthecolorrepresentingjoyousinthetraditionalChina.Thismakestheweddingceremonybecomesjubilant.InthetraditionalChinesewedding,thebridegenerallywearredclothesandaredsilkinherhead.Andthebridegroomgenerallywearagownjacket.Thebridegroomwillrideahorseandgotothebride’shometopickher.Bothparentssitfacingtothebrideandbridegroom.AndthewholeweddinghostedbyMC,underhiscommand,thebrideandbridegroomfirstbowtoHeavenandEarth

,thentheirparents,andfinallycouplestoworshipandenterthebridalchamber（洞房）.TheWesternWeddingCeremonyThewesternweddingceremonybelongstoromantictypes,thewholeweddingfromstarttoendingisfullofromanticbreath.Thebride‘sdressiscommonlywhite,andthebridegroom

isintheblacksuit.Theyholdtheweddingceremonyinthechurch.Thebride’sfathergivesthehandofthebridetothebridegroom,thentheywillchangetheirringsandkisswitheachother.WilliamandKatearechangingtheirrings.SummaryThereasonwhyChineseandwesternershavedifferentmarriageideasi