How to get well with others(如何與他人友好相處)

Howtogetwellwithothers

Inourdailylife,wehavetocomeintocontactwithdifferentpeopleineverywalkoflife.Noonecanlivealoneintheworld.Friendsplayanimportantpartinourlives.Therefore,itisveryimportantforustoknowhowtogetalongwellwithotherpeopleandestablishagoodfriendship.

Asforthequestion“howtogetalongwellwithothers”,differentpeoplehavedifferentways.Inmyopinion,honesty,optimisticattitudetowardslifeandbroad-mindednessarethethreeimportantvirtuesforustogetwellwithotherpeople.Honestyisthebestpolicy.Thisproverbsignifiestheimportanceofhonesty.ItisregardedasthetraditionalvirtueofChinesenation.Tobehonestmeansweshouldtreatpeoplewithourtrueheartandsaywhatwemean.Itwillbenefitusalot.

Foronehand,youcanwinahighreputationandpeople’strust.Thus,peoplemayfeelcomfortableandhappywhentheygetalongwithyou,whichwillbringmoreandmorefriendstoyou.Foranotherhand,whenyouareintrouble,peoplewilltrytheirbesttohelpyousinceyouhavewontheirtrust.Incontrast,dishonestycanresultinguiltyfeelings,becausedistrustamongpeople,ruinyourreputationandevenkeeppeoplestayfarawayfromyou.

OneoftheAesop’sFables-----TheBoyWhoCriedWolfisthebeststorytoprovethebadeffectofdishonesty.Theshepherdboyliesthatthewolfiscomingforseveraltimes.Peoplewhoarecheatedbyhimwouldnevertrusthim.Soatlast,whenthewolfreallycomes,noonetrustshimandallhissheepwereeatenbythewolf.Dishonestynotonlymakesyoulosefriends,butalsomaterialgains.Inaword,honestyisthebestpolicywhenwegetalongwithothers.Takeanoptimisticattitudetolife.Ourattitudecanleadustohavedifferentemotions,andtheseemotionscanalsochangehowitisweunderstandtheworldemotionally.Optimist,whobelievesthatthefuturewillbegoodandthatthingswillendwell,liveahappierlifethanthosewhoholdthenegativeattitudetowardslife.Sothattheyfeelhopefulaboutlifeandabouttheworld.Withthispositiveemotion,theytreatotherpeoplekindlysincetheybelievethatotherswouldbealsofriendlytothem.Thus,theyarewelcomeandrespectedbypeoplewhichcanmakethemgetalongwithothermoreeasily.

Therefore,youmustbeinanoptimisticattitudetowardslifenomatterwhatkindofweatheryouareintodayorwhatkindofpersonyoucomeacrossonyourliferoad.Youshouldunderstandthatthepastdoesnotequalthefuture,letgooftheassumptionthattheworldisagainstyouandbethankful.Ifyouinsistdoingthosethings,youwouldbecomeanoptimistandfindthatitiseasytogetwellwithothers.Beingbroad-mindedisessential.Broad-mindednessisanoblevirtueintheworld,akindofself-cultivationandanartofgettingalongwithpeople.Thereisasayingsays,“Theseaisthevastestontheearth.Theskyisvasterthanthesea.Ahumanmindisthemostamongthethree.”Beingabroad-mindedperson,youcantoleratepeople’sshortcomingandfaultanddefusethecontradictionbetweenyouandothers.

Neverdealinmicrogramoryouwouldbeinanxietyallthetime.Themoreyoutreattheworldandpeoplewithabroad-mindedheart,themoreyoucangainloveandhappiness.Soyoucanliveaharmonylifewithothersandtheworldwillbemorebeautiful.

InanArablegend,therearetwofriendstraveledindesert.Oneday,aquarrelhappenedbetweenthemandoneofthefriendsevenslappedtheotherone.Theonewhowasslappedfeltveryhumiliated;however,hesaidnothingandwrotedownasentenceonthesand:Today,Iwasslappedbymybestfriend.Theykeptonmovingforwarduntiltheyreachafertilefield.Theonewhowasslappedwasnearlydrownedinthewater.Fortunately,hisfriendsavedhim.Afterthen,heengravedcharactersbyasword:Today,myfriendsavedmylife.Thisstorytellsusthatwhenyouwerehurtbyyourfriend,don'tbeargrudgesandtrytobebroad-minded;whileyougethelpfromhim,youshouldrememberitinyourheartforever.Contradictionishardtoavoidbetweeneveryperson,ifwedon’thaveabroad-mindedheart,ourfriendwillleaveusfaraway.Tosumup,honesty,optimisticattitude